Anyone who’s had hotel sex knows it’s magically ten times better than having sex in your own bed, and now we know exactly why. According to Ian Kerner, a licensed psychotherapist, sex counselor and best-selling author, having sex in a hotel room instead of your own bedroom causes a rush of the neurotransmitter dopamine to come out and play. Dopamine is what controls the reward and pleasure centre of your brain, and your brain gets to enjoy a nice dopamine cocktail when you have novel experiences. “The novelty of the hotel room is going to stimulate dopamine transmission in the brain, which pays a big role in arousal and sexual excitement,” Kerner told the Huffington Post.
Just like when you eat your favourite food after not having it for a while, it tastes extra delicious because you get a burst of dopamine. When you have sex in a hotel, it’s basically like having amazing sex after a dry spell. Extra delicious.
The fuzzy feeling you get when you treat yo’ self doesn’t hurt, either. “There’s a psychological mindset when people check into a hotel that they can pamper themselves. There’s something a little luxurious, languorous, sumptuous about a hotel that lends itself to feeling sexual,” Kerner continues.
Stress and anxiety are serious buzzkills, and your bedroom can be the headquarters of the all the shitty responsibilities that come with adulthood that cause said stress and anxiety. “There aren’t photos of kids, bills that need to be paid, books that need to be read; you’re in a place out of time, out of your life. And the shutting down or the pushing away of that anxiety, creating a boundary of anxiety and stressors of everyday life, is going to contribute to sexual arousal,” Kerner explains.
Now you know what to do when you need to add a little zest to your sex life. Get a room at the closest hotel (or go on holiday while you’re at it), throw on the fluffy hotel robe to relax, then take it right off and get busy.