The allure of the one-night stand may be greater than that of any other sexual escapade in our culture. It requires a chase, delivers a prize and opens a forum of satisfaction, both as a game of hide-and-seek and in the sultry moments with your unknown partner. One-night stands are a firecracker of sexuality: short, explosive, easily found in Mexico, and leaving a lasting memory that often trumps the actual experience.
Beware! The No. 1 luxury of one-night stands centers around attachment. With committed sex, you are furthering love (or whatever you think love is). With one-night stands, however, interactions are merely physical. Take our tips for one-night stands and run.
Go to her place
Women tend to keep their quarters a little nicer than men, which is especially convenient when plans are made on the fly. You might not have expected to take anyone home, so your dirty gym socks and unwashed sheets can make your place seem like a war zone to her. Don’t ruin the mood with these unnecessary outside forces. Besides, there is nothing like a woman’s bed.
Also, heading to her place gives you room to flee if things start to head south chemistry-wise. A teary confession or an accidental slip of her ex-boyfriend’s name ruins the mood quickly. Hell, she could even turn out to be a psycho. No matter what dampens the flame, an exit plan should always be in the back of your mind in case you have to abandon ship. Leaving is always easier than getting her to leave.
Mystery fuels the fire of a one-night stand. She doesn’t know you. Everything is physical — no prior knowledge required and no strings attached. Well, except for one, potentially.
Do you really need a reason to be safe? With some areas experiencing increases in diseases like HIV and syphilis, today’s one-night stands have added risks, and you don’t want to be bringing home any unwanted souvenirs.
We all know a guy who has made the occasional mistake with a woman and drilled without any hardware. No matter what she says, unprotected sex can yield fatal results for you, or for her, in the event one of you is carrying a disease that you don’t know about. Don’t ruin a perfectly good night. Be safe and get tested regularly, especially if you’re in the habit of having sex with strangers.
Besides, pickup artist extraordinaire and author of The Game Neil Strauss recommends keeping a condom in your back pocket each night out — if not for protection, he advises, then for a physical reminder that you might actual get some.
Our girlfriends want sex to be a manifestation of love. This has inspired a wealth of sexual idealization, the kind that single-handedly fuels Hugh Grant’s movie career and Kenny G’s world tours. One-night stands don’t require the same sort of sensitivity, so leave that all behind. Let this be your opportunity to try out a few new things.You have never been with this girl, so communication will guarantee a better experience. She won’t know what you’re into or what works in your short-term chemistry, so let her know exactly what is going on. Be vocal.
On the other hand, don’t be too cautious either. This is your time to shine. If she doesn’t like something, then back off, but don’t hesitate to live out your fantasy. Inversely, she might be frisky too. Maintain an open mind while she explores. Together you’ll end up going to previously uncharted territories.
Don’t be an ass
Guys tend to let the confidence of a one-night stand inflate their egos, sometimes in a demeaning way. You might not see her again, but don’t break ties on a bad note — if not for your own pride, then because all girls talk. Furthermore, this one-night stand may prompt a desire to extend your stay with this mystery woman.Don’t ruin any opportunity to see her again with a cocky demeanor to deter her from future communication.
Once is all it takes
When men leave a serious relationship, the aftermath usually materializes into a series of one-night stands. There’s a reason for this: couples seek intimacy while strangers seek pleasure. The difference is vast, so be aware when you engage in these short escapades.That being said, be careful. The spontaneity of one-night stands can breed carelessness. Don’t ruin your experience by making preventable mistakes.