01/ Make Your
Difficulty Rating: 4/10
There’s nothing sexier than making and watching your own XXX films; according to a poll by dating site BeNaughty. But perfection requires preparation. Make sure you have all the props on hand: condoms, lube or anything more, um, specialist. Lighting is key: use lamps with nothing stronger than a 40-watt bulb. Overhead lighting will magnify every flaw. And tell her how great she looks – she needs to feel comfortable to perform.
02/ Play Internet
DIFFICULTY RATING: 6/10
A Reuters study found that almost half of men under 40 have slept with someone they met online. If you’re not one of them, don’t worry. Try Tinder or Down for immediacy. The latter app works if there’s a loose acquaintance you’ve got your eye on, but for the buzz of anonymous sex, there’s nothing quite like Tinder. If she recently changed her Facebook profile picture to one taken in a misleadingly flattering light – she’s on it.
03/ Sex With Someone Older
DIFFICULTY RATING: 7/10
This one delivers double benefits. With the age difference, you’ve got an added sense of taboo plus the chance to pick up a few new tricks. According to a study by sex-toy makers LoveHoney, women’s sexual confidence (read: skill set) peaks between the ages of 35 and 44. But don’t be intimidated – treat it as a challenge. True, your performance will come under some scrutiny, but you’ll know how to impress any woman afterwards.
04/ Sex Where She’s the Boss
DIFFICULTY RATING: 5/10
Taking the lead every time is hard work. Contrary to popular belief, most women don’t need much persuading to pick up the reins – just encouragement. The easiest way to bring out the boss in her is to turn it into a game. I recommend “forced” oral sex – you on your back while she straddles your face and commands you to take her to orgasm; or controlled masturbation – you face one another without touching, until she permits it.
05/ Sex in Public
DIFFICULTY RATING: 7/10
A locked room in a public place presses all your fantasy buttons, found research byexaminer.com. Be savvy when picking the venue. I’ve sampled more than a few and DIY stores are by far the best: huge cubicles, pristinely clean and deathly quiet. There’s no better way to liven up buying stuff for your new kitchen.
06/ Have a Threesome
DIFFICULTY RATING: 8/10
You knew it’d be on the list somewhere. But it’s hard to orchestrate and even harder to pull off successfully. “Make her the star of your fantasy, then follow these three golden rules,” says sex counsellor Fran Powell. First, always let her select the woman. Secondly, find that woman online (propositioning friends isn’t worth the trouble). Lastly, work out what you want to do in advance, give it your full attention and then move on.
07/ Master the Multiple Orgasm
DIFFICULTY RATING: 9/10
As a man, you’re at a disadvantage: women can have unlimited orgasms, while you’re restricted to maybe three a day (unlike your 16-year-old self). However, it’s possible to skirt close to climax and back away, allowing you both to experience multiple orgasms. As you near ejaculation, breathe in, withdraw your penis (bar a centimetre or two) and clench your lower abdomen as you would for a core exercise. Practise strengthening the muscles and you’ll rival her capacity to multi-gasm within a month.